men will always have an attribute that weakens them
PRIDE
pride will and has always been the downfall of men
and i’m saying this through experience and through other people’s experiences
i was watching the true story of Sandra Laiang, a black looking girl born to two white parents
its called a kickback apparently
because of her father’s pride, he shuts himself and his whole family against her for more than 20 years
not until he was on his deathbed that he realized his mistake and wanted to make up for all the heartache and missing years
Sandra’s husband lost everything during the aparteid, started drinking, abusing her, and ignoring her all because of his pride
in the end he looses her and his two kids and also his life in a drunken brawl
so much for pride
(its from a movie called Skin, based on a true story and she’s still alive so i just might go visit her one of these days)
i recently also met another lady who was married to one of the African country’s head of security
she led a tough life
having lived through the aparteid and later moving to London under exile, she returned after more than 20 years back to her homeland, South Africa where she was then separated from her own children because of her husband’s pride
he banished her from his country up until another 20 odd years past and their son runs into trouble with the authorities and he could do nothing about it, that he humbled himself to ask her for help
there are always stories of how men take longer to get over things and move on.
sometimes its about a man who’s got everything in the world but is lonely.
it is usually their pride that put them there in the first place.
if only a man would learn to compromise or let the little silly things go, they would not even have to ‘move on’
(of course if your gf cheated on you, you’ve got all rights to cut her off)
if only a man would admit his faults or learn to view things in a different perspective, maybe there isnt a reason to have to get over things
most men who are rich and lonely are businessmen
and in order to be where they are, they’ve probably had to step on a few people, not admit their faults, ignore the living world and be selfish and soon they forget where they came from
pride gets in the way of a lot of things
pride (and greed) kills nations in war
pride is the third person in a relationship
pride sees the downfall of great empires
pride gets in the way of one’s own happiness and emotional freedom and hurts the owner far worse than it hurts others
all because they fear
fear of vulnerability and being laughed at by other male species for being ’soft’
i’d admit that women have a lot of pride too
but women are much softer beings
granted that there are a few women out there who are military men like who go through life wanting to be in charge of everything and wished they grew a pair of balls
women tend to melt after a few attempts to patch things up
they are generally more sentimental and emotional
if a man promises to change and tells her he loves her, everything melts away even if she refuses to admit it (that’s cos she wants you to suffer a little because of whatever reason)
some women may disagree with me
but i’d say most women are naturally beings who trusts their feelings and intuition
one may be all ‘girl power’ and feminist and all that but that’s just them trying to break out of the norm and be equal
men and women are somewhat equal
not in terms of ‘pain threshold to pain threshold’
but men have abilities that women don’t and women have abilities that men don’t
they may never fully understand each other but sometimes the beauty in life is not the quest to understand every single dust mite, but the differences
men and women balance each other out, every different human being balances each other out
hell, the whole world balances each other out with the different cultures and habits and generation conditioning!
i guess it will take another thousand years or so for men to finally let their pride go
more and more men these days are realizing that as a weakness and making a conscious effort to change it (and i think the women are absorbing what men are shedding)
the world is somehow moving towards equality and androgynity whether we like it or not
but for now
sigh~
why must pride get in the way of things?!
